Learning to Love You

Self Confidence..

Who actually has this completely figured out? If you ask me, I don't believe there is anyone who is 100% secure with who they are. Yes, there are some who are more confident than others, but I know without a doubt that even they struggled from day to day.

I had a completely different post planned for today. Something easy. But today I am choosing to talk about the hard topic. The topic that makes some people very uncomfortable. Because I think it needs to be talked about more.

And trust me, I am not writing this as a person who finds it easy to love myself all the time. I am writing this as a person who got ready for church this morning and then couldn't make myself go.

We all have these days. The days where something inside you just doesn't feel right. Somehow the Devil spoke a lie into your heart that you listened to. It is one of the worst feelings in the world. And I, along with every other girl, understand this. Actually... I won't count out you guys. I know that this is a struggle for y'all too. It's just one we as a society don't always recognize as much.

I feel as if the Lord has laid this topic on my heart this morning to just acknowledge. I don't have all the answers on how to fix this, but I do see so much hurt and comparison in the world. It kills me! There's just this stigma that confidence is either something you have or you don't have.

I think confidence is something we have to work for everyday. Something we have to fight for! Something worth fighting for! It is something that we have to speak into our lives on the daily. I know sometimes I can tear myself to shreds. All by myself, I can destroy my confidence. Honestly, it doesn't typically even require anyone else to do a thing. Just know, you can forgive yourself for the days where you wounded your own heart.

I think learning to forgive yourself is a huge part of fighting the fight for your self love. Typically, the hardest person for myself to forgive... is me. We have to learn how to forgive ourselves.

So I am going to do something for you that you need to start doing for yourself everyday. Speaking truth and affirmations over yourself. Maybe you aren't there yet, but speak it over yourself even still. There is nothing greater you can do for yourself than remind yourself of who you are and WHOSE you are. Because once you recognize that, the daily battle gets easier.

So, fill in the blank with your name and read this over yourself. I don't care if you feel stupid. Do it in your car or somewhere by yourself. This is truly only for you.

________, you are unique. Your ideas matter. You have something to bring to the table that no one else does. No matter how you feel, you have a purpose and a reason for being on this earth. You are loved by many. You affect people's lives in a positive way. You are beautiful. You are a world changer. There is always hope. You are a joy to be around. You are worth people's time. What you have to say matters. Your dreams are important. You are trying your hardest. You don't have to be perfect all the time. You can move mountains with a bun and no makeup. You are worth being pursued. You can reach your goals. You are filled with love. You are worth believing in. You are successful. You are fearless. You are getting stronger everyday. You inspire others. You are bold. There is no one else like you and you could never be replaced. You truly are ENOUGH just the way you are.

This is hard to do. I know.

But continue to fight the fight for yourself. You are wroth your own time. The time it takes to daily get the courage to believe you are enough. With or without makeup. With or without money. With or without the job you want. With or without a spouse. With or without the things you don't yet have. You are so incredibly worth it. I am so incredibly worth it.

Let's together, join in and agree that we will try to love ourselves better. AND forgive ourselves on the days we fail. Let's agree to love and speak truth to each other. You never know how much your words of affirmation to someone else affects them. I have had people say simple words of encouragement that still touch my heart to this day.

I think confidence starts somewhere between allowing yourself to fail and speaking truth over yourself. You aren’t perfect and never will be. Accept the beauty in your mistakes. There’s a song by Gungor called “BeautIful Things.” The chorus of the song says “you make beautiful things out of the dust.” I don’t know if you know this, but man was made from dust. So don’t you think that beautiful things can be made from us? Even our mistakes.

I choose to believe this. I choose to believe in myself. Daily. Even after hard days where I failed. I’m a work in progress and pray I always am. The fight for our self love is a battle. A daily battle. But let me share some good news. The war has already been won by our Heavenly Father.

I‘m praying for all of you now. To see your worth. To believe you are worth fighting for. BY YOU! I wish I could speak some affirmations over every one of you to your face. You are all so worth it!

Again, and as always, thank you. Thank you for being a friend and encourager to me. I am so so blessed. And writing gives me such joy. Thank y’all for taking the time to read what I have to say!

Happy Sunday, my dear friends!

-Chandler ?